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Does SSH have to be your only way? Could you deploy something like Tailscale? Can you restrict the allowed IP ranges on SSH with a firewall rule?

YoutubeDL-Material would fit the bill

It’s like $20 year, not everything good can be free.

NextDNS.

Also, be wary of relying on anything blocking ads on streaming services this way. They will likely serve them within the video stream, so not network-blockable.

Apple is the least terrible of my list.

ATV is the only box I recommend. I’m anti-Google, don’t trust Amazon (and now their service is going to do ads on a paid Prime membership), and Roku has major privacy issues at least in the past. Curious why you’re seeking an alternative to Apple.